Wednesday, December 27, 2006
Fahget about it kiddos... it ain't gonna happen... this gal does not wear a bathing suit, so there will be no picks of that here! Nice try.
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
A Merry Christmas to all! I'm sure everyone is busy getting ready for Santa Claus to visit. Everyone except Malathionman. So I've found a project for him while he is on his Vicodin Vacation. He may pick up his project at his nearest Costco. The picture above is what the final project should look like. I want pictures of his final result.
Good luck with your mission!
Sunday, December 17, 2006
1. I, too, cannot roll my 'r's. It is quite embarassing at times when trying to speak Spanish and it just doesn't sound quite right.
2. I cannot roll my tongue. This is embarassing because I seem to be the only person who cannot do this. My family says, "C'mon, mom, it's easy". Well, it's not. I can't do it.
3. When standing still and talking, I lift my right foot up onto my toe and twist my foot back and forth.... back and forth.... back and forth... which drives my children insane. I can't help it. I do it without thinking. I've caught them doing it a time or two and they didn't realize it.
4. If you say you are hungry in my home, or ask for something to eat, without even thinking I begin to list everything in the house that is edible prefaced with 'we've got'... eg. we've got Eggos, we've got chicken nuggets, we've got turkey. This is another thing that drives my children insane. No matter how many times they say they are hungry, I will repeat what we have to eat in the house. Habit I suppose.
5. I have an 'evil' eye. I don't mean to have an 'evil' eye. It is just there. When I look at someone or am concentrating, it sometimes appears that I am giving them a mean look. Please, if I do this to you, it is NOT a mean look or an 'evil' eye. Really.
6. Our home has little stacks everywhere. I don't like stacks, but they are there. Stacks of magazines, papers, coupons, etc. I tolerate these stacks EXCEPT in the living room and entryway! NO STACKS THERE! Stacks do appear on the coffee table and floor. By evening, I'm staring down the stacks and my right leg is jumping. I will pick up the stacks and move them 6 feet to the counter (where there are mini stacks) just to get them out of the living room.
So, just a little weirdness that is me. And now I shall tag Miranda, Sarah, and Sabine!
Friday, December 15, 2006
Thursday, November 16, 2006
No snickering over there Caffeinated Librarian... I heard how close your game with Winthrop was last night. Many 'experts' are predicting our teams to meet in March Madness.
North Carolina vs Kansas
Wouldn't that be so sweet!
One more thing: Drama Queen really needs a quick prayer from each of you for her baby girl. I am not able to explain more, because I don't have enough facts yet, but I DO know prayers are needed. Thanks all you WONDERFUL people!
Wednesday, November 08, 2006
Actually, it's been a bit more life changing than that this past month, but more later on that. More important things are going on right now. GYMBOREE PEOPLE!!! PRIORITIES PLEASE! I would have loved to have taken a few of my precious moments I had to try to compose a quick note to you all, but hey.... I had to go to GYMBOREE!!! What a bit of a zoo that place is. It's more of a free-for-all for the toddlers. A place for kids to run around and throw things in climates that suck and they can't play outside basically. I hopefully will get some pictures soon *wink*.
I would have posted a few days ago, but I was trying to start getting around to everyone because I have not been able to. My issues have been regarding health and spirit, but to say they are on the mend does not do it justice. I feel as if it is a rebirth of sorts. I do hope it is and not just a flash or a tease. It something that only time will tell. So please understand that I do not wish to jinx it now by talking about it. I'm still sorting it out in my head myself. But I do definitely have more energy in the last couple of days.
Now..... JAYHAWKS RULE BABY!!!!!!!!!!! All right Caffeinated Librarian, it's on girl. I know you and Roy are ranked #2, but that won't be for long.... WE ROCK BABY! We are on your tail girl! We did have to kick CJ Giles off the team for being a freakin' moron, but no loss, we have Slim Shady baby. It looks like this year is going to be FUN! Sherry, Jayhawks are playing Florida Nov. 25 on ESPN2 in the Vegas Tourney if you happen to catch it. (I know how you are).
So in summation, I apologize for disappearing, but it was for a good reason. DQ is doing good in Arkansas, Blondie is awesome self in Jayhawk Country, Dweeb is having band practice in the other room, and right this very moment, life is good.
Sunday, October 22, 2006
Wow, it's been awhile. I'm still here. I'm still alive. Just a quick update today though due to birthday dinner for my mother-in-law and hunky boyfriend. We are going to eat where Blondie works and make her wait on us. That will be a switch!
Drama Queen has adjusted quite well. She loves Arkansas. But, then again, Arkansas is absolutely beautiful with the mountains. She stopped bucking everyone who talked to her and hopefully is gaining something from the church she must attend and the people around her. The bible teacher is still constantly reminding her that she is praying for her soul. I am assuming she is a fairly new convert to that faith, as that is how most are in the beginning... pushy. She begins GED classes this week which will help tremendously. Get that brain cookin' again. Oh wait, maybe she already cooked it! (just kidding) She did find out the adoption laws in Arkansas which are drastically different then in Kansas which is a good thing. She is keeping that as a viable option (yes, there is a God). Still, we have been in this same type of place before, so time will tell.
Blondie. She went out with a guy that she actually likes! He's not annoying and a jerk. She has actually known him since high school (he went to a different school). We'll see how long he lasts. She is a whiz at school, as usual and I'm just so dang proud of her.
Dweeb is busy with his new band. Many new songs to learn and print out, so haven't seen him much. But, he is doing what he loves and that is the most important thing to me.
Me? I've been at that point in life where I'm not sure what to do next. A bit lost to say the least. After much soul searching and realizing it's time for the girls to be more on their own I've made a decision. I'm running away from home. (just kidding!) I'm going back to school. Too old to start over in college (my opinion). No credits I've earned in the past are good now. I love photography, so I'm going that route. I'll keep you posted on how that goes. I need a life!
I thought I'd have time to blogwalk today, but... there is always that but, isn't there? I was going to vacuum and mop real quick and then get to some serious reading. Two problems arose. The Swiffer wet mop stopped working. I got mad about that, so went to the vacuum. After two rooms, the vacuum started smoking. I mean smoking with possible sparks or flames shooting out from it. I quickly turned it off and threw it out on the driveway. I was seriously pissed at this point. I ended up spending the rest of the afternoon buying yet another vacuum. Why don't they last longer? No way was I going the cheap route this time. I'm buying the best. I succombed to the Dyson. When I got home and re-vacuumed a room that I had done before the old one crapped out, I could not believe the amount of dirt that it sucked up! I'm a bit happier now.
It's time for the birthday party, so must run. Oh yeah, my mother-in-law is heading back to Paris soon for three weeks or so. I'm SO happy for her. She will meet up with her brother while she is there and travel around France with him. I'll save that for later. Hope you are all having a great weekend.
Friday, October 13, 2006
Haven't been around because I've been dealing with my Drama Queen. She was unable to find a place to live anywhere around here. She was going to have to go to a shelter for the homeless if she did not find somewhere to go. After searching the internet she found a place in Arkansas that takes in single moms to be regardless of age. They were kind enough to accept her right away. So, DQ and I took a road trip this week.
The drive I was dreading, but it turned out great. We laughed so hard and got lost in the Boston Mountains that it made the trip worthwhile. We didn't arrive until close to 10 pm, but they were ready and waiting for us. This place also takes care of children in need of care and is a beautiful complex. I was quite pleasantly surprised. We were shown her room and it had a welcome sign specifically for her with a basket of goodies she might need right away. They supply everything for her. One catch? No smoking allowed. She protested, but then admitted she figured that would be the case and took it in stride. Glad I'm not in that dorm these first few days until she gets used to it. I left within thirty minutes. I spent the night in the town and headed back home early the next morning.
She has been calling (or trying to get a hold of me) ever since. I did speak to her last night and she seemed to be doing well. The first week is such an adjustment, I hope she keeps her attitude in check. She is required to attend church twice a week and take their bible classes. Being Catholic, we discussed how she needs to not react to what they may say to her. She needs to go by the rules, not laugh, and be open minded. Take from it what she can and leave the rest alone. Of course, as expected, the first bible class was the woman telling her that she was raised basically wrong (Catholic) and that we are idol worshippers. I am so incredibly sick of this perception and frankly we have stopped trying to correct this ignorance. She did as we discussed and just listened. The woman said she would pray for my daughter's soul and hope that she accepts Jesus into her life. Oye! I wish these kind of lies about Catholics would just stop, but it's open season on us. So be it. We can take it.
I had to check in with her lawyer (who was Jaden's dad's lawyer during custody battle 1 1/2 years ago). Hopefully, he can convince the judge that DQ needs to stay down there away from the 'baby daddy' and all her triggers.
Good news is that she is not in a shelter and is hours away to hopefully do some soul searching. It is still too early to know whether she leave this place too. I just never know what she will do next. I pray she stays there and makes the right decision.
So... that is where I have been. The girl has eaten up every spare moment I have had, but hopefully I can get back to normal.
I'll be around this weekend to finally catch up on everyone. Til then.. have a good weekend.
LATE NIGHT IN THE PHOG!
You heard me... it's the beginning of college hoops FINALLY! I could not make it up there tonight for the first night of practice (open to the public), but Blondie will let me know what I missed out on. AND Sunday the Chicago Bulls and Seattle Sonics are playing at Allen Fieldhouse! Yep.. we are that cool. Hinrich (Bulls) and Collison (Sonics) are former Jayhawk greats (graduated a couple of years ago) so the two teams are meeting on KU Campus! Blondie is going, of course, but I must go to the horse races because I hear Crazy A's boyfriend is possibly buying a race horse then. Must check out this horse in his race. I do believe he is as crazy as my sister-in-law.
Saturday, October 07, 2006
I have had a bad enough week already, so I don't want to hear about today's games. Hoops will begin soon and then you Mizzou fans will all be sorry. You are all poor losers... admit it! So, leave it alone today.
Love ya.. have a great weekend!
Thursday, October 05, 2006
How I wish we could get just ONE birthday of DQ's without drama and disaster.
Tuesday morning I spoke with her on the phone. Air conditioning was out at her house, so I told her she could come over to keep cool. Fine. She would finish the load in the washer and call me.
Within an hour, Dweeb called from work. DQ was on her way to the ER. He said it was something like she had lost a pint of blood already and they were leaving the 'baby daddy' place (father of Reece). WTF??? I just talked to her! She has no car! *sigh* I told him I was on my way.
When I arrive at the ER she is already headed for x-ray for her hand. It had gone through a window at the 'baby daddy' house. She went there to get her jacket and his girlfriend was there and they had a fight. Wait a minute... jacket??? It's freakin' 95 degrees outside! She didn't need a jacket. Obviously she needed a fight. She knew what she would find. *screaming at the top of my lungs on the inside*. She gets hand bandaged, we get her script filled, and I take her to her house. This took the entire day!
Tuesday evening, her girlfriend took her to dinner. They returned to their house and DQ went to bed. Soon, three police officers were at the door to get her for domestic violence and damage. OYE! They handcuff her and put her in the car. (I think next birthday I'm going to get her handcuffs to wear as jewelry. She seems to be used to this now). I go to bed and wait for the call Wednesday morning from the County Jail.
An advocate for her calls me Wednesday morning. He informs me of the official charges. I explain in 50 words or less the situation between these two people and explain about Reece. He'll try to use that if needed with the judge. I spend the day waiting and waiting for the phone call that comes after her hearing in front of the judge.
Early afternoon I get the call. The judge was not nice. (duh!) He looked at her previous record which includes kicking out the window of a patrol car, etc etc and is not happy with DQ. (duh!) He even had her juvenile record. It's quite a list, but all misdemeanors. (One point for DQ). He told her what her bond would be. She paniced knowing I would not pay that and begged him. (Charming the judge... I think's it genetic and not in a good way people). He lowered it and it only took 100 bucks to get her out.
I get in the car and head to the County Jail. I only do this because I don't want her to lose her job or lose her status at the house she is living. She is walking on thin ice as it is with the police officers showing up. Well, I made the mistake of showing up 30 minutes before shift change. Great. I spend over two hours sitting at the jail waiting for her to be released. If I left to run an errand or for any other reason, her name would be taken off the release list and not put back on until I got back. She was first on the release list and if I left she would get put at the bottom (as the tiny lobby had filled up by now). So she walks out in her jammies and gets in the car and I dump her back at her house. She knows I'm not happy at all. Hopefully, she can get moved out of this metro area this weekend and away from all of this.
I do not understand why she went over there and why she won't just stop and move on! He has made it very clear he does not want her around. But, with borderline personality disorder... *sigh* I'm thinking of running away from home!
I'll keep you posted .... next week, I'm going to try to talk about good and happy things. Blogland is too sad right now. Everyone have a great weekend!
Monday, October 02, 2006
The story is... Blondie and Cass with their friend C went to a concert that night. I was requested to be designated drop off and pick up person so they could REALLY have fun. I had no problem with this at all and ecstatic they had asked. We don't want our kids driving even after one beer. When I picked the girls up, they were stumbling out of there and Blondie was yelling "I'm in love! I'm going to marry him. NO SERIOUSLY! I'm going to marry this guy!" She always seems to think guys younger than her are cute, so we had fun with the fact he is only 17.
The entry below this one was mostly to practice putting video on my space here.
So please, family members who read this blog and have been calling me in a panic.... SHE IS NOT GETTING MARRIED! Don't worry, Blondie is still on track and not even dating any particular person!
I am notorious for writings like this as many of you already know. It's all in good fun and hopefully makes for a good read.
Thanks for all the great comments!
Thursday, September 28, 2006
Last weekend was quite earth shattering for me. Blondie is a smart girl. Blondie has a good head on her shoulders (common sense). Last February, she broke up with her boyfriend of four years for good reasons. She made a committment to herself to stay single and enjoy the rest of her college years.
I guess my baby had good intentions. But she drives into town last Sunday with her posse. I was quite excited to see the girls and have them here.
By the end of the evening, Blondie had had a few beers when she announces "Mom.... I'm in love! Mom... I'm getting married". She then gives 'that' look. "Seriously mom. You don't understand. I'm going to marry him. He turns 18 in a few months. His name is Chris... Chris Brown!" She suddenly swoons. This guy came into town last weekend, but something tells me it wasn't see my baby girl.
Who is he? A guy she doesn't know very well. He is a cutie and this boy can certainly dance.... what's a mom to do?
Tuesday, September 26, 2006
The very first person I began reading, which made me decide to do this blogging thing we do is our dear and beloved IT Catholic Mom. I love this woman! She has helped me all along the way answering any questions I may have readily and kindly.
This has been difficult news to swallow. No, I haven't lost respect for her, but c'mon... these people are crazy. You would think they knew colors other than RED existed! This Friday, my team meets her team. Now, I know she posted the picture from last November when our teams met. But do I really need to remind her of this???
Kansas 40, Nebraska 15
Nov. 2, 2005 · Memorial Stadium · Lawrence, Kan.
Kansas' Win Over Nebraska...
Yeah... that's what I thought! Bring it on, girlfriend!
Thursday, September 21, 2006
This piece of my 101 expansion will tackle the issues of several of my sisters. I'm sure there is a medical name for this symptom, but I have no idea what it is. I'm sure it's mental. You see, four of five of my sisters are married. Three of those married sisters married men named 'Tom'. I don't know if this is some sort of sibling rivalry and I just failed to get the memo or what. All I know is the two sons-in-law who are NOT named Tom, have considered having their name change in order to 'fit in'.
These three grown men constantly argue about who is the #1 Tom, who is the #2 Tom, and who is on sh*t list because they have been relegated to #3 Tom. The #1 spot was usually determined by my dad (meaning they showed for happy hour at 3 pm to have a drink with him or helped in some home improvement project our dear mother was determined to have done). Now that dad is gone, it is pure mayhem when everyone is together. Arguing back and forth on who is "#1". Personally, Baby Sis's 'Tom' is the #1 Tom in our family. C'mon... he stayed home all last weekend with the triplets and Jack so we could escape on a two day vacation! Did the other Toms come and help?? NO! So, there you have it.
Baby Sis's Tom will always be #1. That is it. No more to be said. Period.
Now, for the #15. Actually I just put that number 29 there. It's been awhile since I counted and probably counted my kids in there. So, to be completely accurate and avoid Blondie correcting me in the 'comment' section, I shall just list names. There will be a quiz so pay attention... got it?
I think going by families will be easier. No way by ages. Too many to remember.
Maryanne, Mike, Paul, Marie, Clare, Elizabeth, Louise, John, Lindsay, Krista, Erin, Natalie, Danny, Frankie, Elise, Joe, Luke, Chris, Rachel, Josh, Brian, Jack, Lauren, Abby, Conor. Can't leave out Kapoe and Princess (one sisters doggies who are her kiddies!)
Okay, I must have included Jaden, Reece, Isaiah, and Lucy (my grandkids) in the mix when I wrote my 101, but there you have it. All but two of these kids are 18 or under. Now do you understand my migraines at family functions? I thought so.
One more thing... this number is subject to change at any given time. We are good Catholics... but I'll cover that in the next installment.
Tuesday, September 19, 2006
Last night as I was coming up with a 'Law' for the Tuesday Blog Walk on my other space, I hear from the other room a very distinct "Uh oh!" For a moment I just sat there hoping he had just fumbled around on the computer too much and lost what he was working on. But, then I hear "Uh oh, I wasn't expecting this." coming from the other room. I know this my cue to investigate and quick. I don't even reach the room with the desktop when he meets me halfway. Dweeb looks at me and says, "I didn't expect to win the bidding! I thought someone would outbid me for sure." I reply, "what did you win?" not really wanting to know the answer considering a new furnace was going to have to purchased in the next few days. Dweeb tells me, "a guitar". My mouth falls open in disbelief.
You must realize that Dweeb's guitars are not cheap. They are great 'investments' as he puts it. In reality, they are, but only if you RESELL them! Which, of course, he NEVER does. My first response to him using my evil eye is, "how much?" He shoots back that it is a good deal and it's a Rainsong (a guitar built with graphite so as to withstand being beat, dropped, and change in humidity). Dweeb already owns one Rainsong guitar that he bought when we were in Maui. This company was located only on Maui at the time. Since then, they moved to Seattle. It has a built in amp and perfect for open mike so he won't have to drag an extra amp with him... blah, blah, blah. I repeat, "how much??" He tells me, I cringe a bit. He hugs me and says he really didn't think he would get it, but he was the highest bidder. Crap. At least it was well under the usual amount for his type of guitar.
Without further ado, meet the new member of the family:
As Kelly knows, all important items must be named. I will have to take a personal up close look at this baby before I can come up with an appropriate name.
Wednesday, September 13, 2006
Tuesday, September 05, 2006
What the hell were you thinking leaving that place? Do you realize what you have done? You have blown the chance we've been waiting for for THIRTEEN YEARS! Everything you told me at your supposed graduation was nothing but bullshit. The first chance you had you jumped ship and ran back to Reece's dad. I don't care if he's the father of your child yet born. I don't care if he says he's done with the other girl. I DON'T CARE! You left a program that would have integrated back into the world at your pace. You left a program that would have provided tutors so you could finally finish your GED. You left a program that was located in another city so you were no where near the 'old people' or triggers. You left a program we have been praying for for so many years. Instead, you decide to walk right back into the fire. You are an idiot! I hate you for doing that. I want to shake you. I want to consult a neurosurgeon to have your brain rewired.
You took the last thirteen years of my life for what? FOR NOTHING! I even scoured the streets of one of the most dangerous cities in the nation, in areas the police won't even go to try to find you and get you out. For what? For you to walk back into it? BULLSHIT girl. You are not taking another day of my life. You want to die, do it. You want to live like that, do it. I'm done. You do nothing but feed me bullshit and lies and I refuse to listen to you anymore. I wash my hands of you girl.
Don't get me wrong. I hope I'm proven wrong and you are happy the rest of your life with your family. But, I will not waste another breath or another minute of my time trying to help or save you. So far all you have done is kick me in the teeth every time I've tried. You have absolutely no idea what you have lost by pulling this stunt of yours. You have lost a family that loved you no matter what you did. But we have our breaking point. I hope it's worth it.
Have a nice life girl.
Excuse me, I need a drink.
Sunday, September 03, 2006
That is the theme when on a sisters outing. My sister right under me by two years is in town from Chicago this weekend with her hubby and son. This, of course, means we must all race down to the 'boats' (casinos located on the edge of the Mighty Mo) to throw our money away and have a great time. We don't ALL get together at one time very often, so tonight was special. All six sisters are in attendence. Just had to post the picture quickly before we proceeded on with our festivities.
I hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend.
Thursday, August 31, 2006
I dashed up the highway to make drops at each daughters residence. Things they MUST have now. I'm a good sport. To my surprise, they were free at the same time. More like they were hungry for some decent food and mom was in town for an hour. Time for some "bonding"! An hour of bliss for all three of us. Their tummies are full and so is my heart. (boy is this pic not so good)
Nice to know my girls love me and want to spend time with their mama. Glad their manners have remained intact while becoming the independent women that they are now.
Tuesday, August 29, 2006
I was up very early this morning to travel and see Drama Queen graduate from the inpatient recovery center. It's an hour drive to the center and the entire time I had knots in my stomach. I nearly turned back twice. But I didn't. I pressed on. When I followed the map to the address, I realized this was a neighborhood I had chased her down before seven years earlier. I nearly cried right there. I tried to ignore my surroundings and get myself in the door as soon as possible.
The moment I walked in the door, DQ was there waiting for me. She looks fabulous! An addict's body detiorates with use very quickly, the acne is horrendous, body becoming more like a shell with bones protruding. They look sick. DQ was radiant. Her hair was shining and healthy. I cannot remember her face looking so smooth and beautiful in years. Her body is perfect. She is not overweight from eating too much starch (happens in some rehabs) and it is not thin (from not eating enough). And then there's that tummy. No doubt she is pregnant. My heart sank when I actually saw this.
She took me to the room where all the women residents and counselors had gathered for her graduation and closing ceremony. There is a coin with the name of the center on it. DQ is not allowed to touch it yet. One at a time, each girl held that coin and spoke. They expressed to my daughter what she meant to them. They expressed what they wish to take from her. Then expressed what they wish to give to her. What was expressed over and over is DQ's strength, her knowledge of the 12 step program, and her love of people. Of course, I know all these things. It was nice to hear about twenty other women say the same things about my girl. Then the coin was handed to her. There were many, many tears among these women. They have grown close in a short time.
DQ loves butterflies. While she was in this center, she would have a Monarch butterfly floating around her whenever she was outside. She took this as a sign that it was Reece staying close to her. Whenever the other girls were outside and a butterfly would flutter around, they come in and let DQ know that Reece was outside. DQ beamed as she told me this. She blames herself for Reece's death. She is doing much better, but has a long road ahead still.
I then drove her to the next residence she will stay for three to six months. This is what is different this time around. Usually, you finish the inpatient program and they open the door with a good luck and don't let the door hit you on the way out! This place is supervised, but not a lock down inpatient facility. It is a re-integration facility. There are counselors to help her on site. The clinic and doctor is a couple of blocks down the road. She will hopefully be looking for a job soon. She will work on finishing her GED. She only has the Math portion left to pass. Damn Math. She missed passing it the last time by two lousy points.
I'm still not convinced anything has changed with her. She claims she has 'gotten over' Reece's father, yet he was thinking of attending her graduation until he heard I would be there. Wise choice to not come. He is the father of the present bun in the oven. I guess time will tell. The good thing is she is not in our metro area. She is very close to Blondie, but she doesn't know where Blondie lives now. We are going to keep it that way for now. Both of my girls are now in Jayhawk Country.
I pray she makes it this time, but I already feel we are heading down the old familiar road. God help me.
Monday, August 28, 2006
I'll be back tomorrow night, hopefully.
Saturday, August 26, 2006
1. My Family: This has to be first because my two daughters and my husband have been the center of my life for the past 26 years. They are my 'job'. My life revolves around these three people. Hubby is a physician. That should be enough said, but he works in the E.R. which means we don't know what his schedule is from month to month. His shifts change from day to day. Shifts range from day, mid-day, evening, and the dreaded night shift. These shifts don't come in groups together, they are scattered all over the place. No such thing as a 'regular' bedtime around here. DQ obviously has kept me on my toes for past ten years. Running around trying to find her, keep her court dates, visiting her in hospitals, getting her to appointments, and dealing with couples who want to adopt her 'next' baby. OYE! Blondie. She kept me busy running her around to all her athletic and dance activities. Some normalcy in my life! These three are more than a full time job. I don't know how you moms who work outside the home do it. I'm pooped.
2. My Sisters: My sisters are my best friends. I spend most time with them when I am not with my family. I couldn't get through my life without my sisters. Sure they piss me off, but there are so many of them, that there is always at least one or two I'm happy with at any given time. The beauty of a large family. (watch the comments girls)
3. Music: I love music. I love most music. It used to be just rock, but I have learned to appreciate just about anything I listen to at any given time. We have albums, a gajillion CD's, and of course my iPod. That poor little thing is packed with everything from country to rock to blues to classical to rap. And of course you know I have my own personal musician in residence who sings on command. Sometimes I have to tell him to shut-up cause it's driving me batty and I can't hear the news on T.V. Music is huge in our life and home.
4. Laptop: This probably wouldn't have made the list if my power had not been going off and on sporadically for hours on end recently. Dweeb and I first thought no big deal. It will get a bit warm, but we can live with it until the power comes back on. WRONG! I headed to my laptop and he headed to the desktop. My laptop is on battery, but it does not good if you have no electricity to hook up to the internet!! We were at a loss without our computers. I spend HOURS on this contraption a day. Searches, talking with Blondie or friends, blogwalking, downloading more music... you get the idea. Most of you are probably the same way. I realized I cannot live without my laptop.
5. Books: Books have a been a big part of my life since I was a child. I was a reader from an early age. I have shelves and shelves of books. I am getting close to having the complete collection of Pope John Paul II's writings. That will always be kept on my shelf. Others I really need to give away. You can read my mind by looking at what I'm reading at any given time. For instance, I just finished Nora Ephron's new book "I Feel Bad About My Neck". (She is my hero) Sitting on the little table next to the couch where I park my tush is "The Purpose Driven Life". I want to see what the fuss is about this book. I'll keep you posted on that. Sitting on coffee table staring at me begging to be opened is Thomas Friedman's "The World Is Flat". That book scares me just looking at it. Such committment it is going to require! The content and the number of pages! Also on the bookshelf to never be removed is Sylvia Plath and Augusten Burroughs, Carrie Fisher (she is hilarious!) and John Irving. I also have many books regarding my faith. Have a question about why Catholics do that? I probably have the answer on my bookshelf! I just love books.
6. My Home: This must be on the list because I spend so much time here. I have lived here longer than I have lived anywhere at anytime. We have lived here for 15 1/2 years. That's a freakin' lifetime! My home is a mess. It's not a 'show home' like most in our area. Most of the homes in our area you'd be afraid to touch anything if you went inside. Not here. You not only can pick it up, you can throw it if you want! And we have! We just have lots of STUFF after so many years. Dweeb began with one room downstairs for his music and it has now invaded nearly every single room in the house. My books, scrapbooking crap, camera and accessories also take space in many rooms. And the stacks! This is inherited. I swear. I have stacks. Stacks of papers here. Stacks of papers there. I have tried to organize and file and get them out of the way. It works for awhile, but I invariably find I'm back to stacks. It is organized chaos though. If that's any consolation. It's not too bad really. I just look at everyday and it's getting my last nerve again. I do love my home. Very open. One room flows into another. No doors or small doorways except on bathrooms or bedrooms. I look out my huge back windows (and there is shit load of them, fourteen to be exact) and I see a beautiful lake with a landscaped area that comes to the edge of our property. We completely lucked out by being one of the first six people to move into this area. There are now over 700 homes. We have the best lot in the area. NICE!
7. My Car: Our home is a bit out in the sticks. Civilization is growing our way, but just to get to any shopping it is ten miles one way. I can spend a lot of time in the car. It takes me to 1 - 1 1/2 hours to make a 'quick' run to the grocery store. If I have several errands to run, I map it out so I go in a circle and end up back home without having to backtrack. Backtracking can cost you another 15 minutes to half hour depending on traffic. My car hold any necessities I may need in a pinch. Kleenex, hand lotion, blanket, water, camera, and any items that need to be delivered 'just in case' I end up near the place or see the person it belongs to. I have the iPod car gadget so I can listen to it. On the radio is the sports station so I can keep up do date on the Jayhawks (of course). My car is my second home.
8. My Faith: I am a Catholic. I am an Irish Catholic. I am very proud of that. I LOVE my faith. Some would say I have every reason to hate the Church and are surprised I still love the Church, but I do. The Church didn't do anything, but show me the way. My faith has gotten me through times I thought I would not live through. I believe my religion has the answers, if you know where to look for them. I just know in my heart this is where I'm supposed to be. Adoration is where I am able to speak more directly to God and to cry out loud.... He always answers me. I realize many of you will not understand what Adoration is and I'm sorry for not explaining that now. Confession! How wonderful is that! No, we don't confess so we can go right back out and do it again, etc, etc. If you have the right confessor, you can get all that crap off your chest, be forgiven, and receive spirtual guidance. All in one swoop! When you're finished, you feel fifty pounds lighter! Okay, better move on to the next one. Getting a bit carried away here. My apologies.
9. My Birks: KM will be horrified to read this. Turn your head now sweetie or you may scream. I love my birks. That is all I wear. I have different colors and styles, but that's about it. Don't get me wrong. I love shoes. Shoes don't love me. Birkenstocks are THE most comfortable shoes I have ever worn! I can walk for miles in those puppies. My feet never hurt when wearing them. Now, when winter hits and it's freezing outside, I have a new love when I leave home. UGGS. I know! But they are SO comfy! You need to understand, my wardrobe in the winter is jeans and hoodie sweatshirt and UGGS (if outside) or Birks (if inside). Can't help it. I'm a dork.
10. My glasses: I hate them. I hate them with a passion. But I have to have them or I can't see! I had 20/20 vision until I was 41 years old. Then... yep, downhill. I became blind as a bat. Glasses SUCK! Not only that, I went from 20/20 vision to BIFOCALS! Welcome to the 'other side'. My eye problem doesn't have a 'fix'. No laser treatment. No contact lens have been perfected for bifocals yet. (besides I probably wouldn't be able to get them in my eyes) I'm stuck with these things cluttering up my face, hurting my nose and ears. They are smeary much of the time and constantly being grabbed and tugged on by the triplets (previously it was Jaden). These glasses have been through hell. If frames style change, you SOL. You keep wearing what you have until they come back in style again. But, they are a part of me. I have to have them or I wouldn't be able to visit any of you.
I guess that's it. Not very interesting. I'm pretty dull actually. So, what 10 things represent you? I'm tagging anyone who reads this. This means you! I see you and I know who you are.
Thursday, August 24, 2006
For those that do not know already, Drama Queen is my eldest daughter. She has been a drug addict for over ten years. Her 3 month old son, Reece, passed away May 20th and she had a terrible relapse. Drugs of choice: Crack and heroin. We were forced to make her leave our home the first of July. She has now been in a women's treatment facility for a month in a city about an hour away. I had not spoken to her since we told her to leave. Now... the update:
She has been writing me letters. Blah, blah, blah is what I read. I replied with a letter to explain why I could not speak or communicate with her. I have to try to take back my life after all these years. It had gotten to the point we did nothing but enable her when trying to help her. No more. She had to do this on her own or suffer the consequences of her decisions. I was not sure how she would react to this letter. Would she accept my explanation and continue her recovery or would she bolt from the facility? It was a toss up. She did need a copy of her birth certificate, but I was not going to send it if she was not there anymore. I made a phone call to her counselor for the first time to see if she was still at the facility. Of course, I had to leave a message. No human can ever talk to you. When the phone rang I thought it would be the counselor, but instead it was DQ. She was still there. She was calm. She said she accepted my letter. She is graduating from the recovery center next week and asked if I would consider coming for that celebration. My response was that I was not going to fall back into the same traps with her and I would have to think about it, but that I was proud of her and glad she was still there. The same day she 'graduates', she will be transported to another place for about six months where she will get a job and begin to learn to live life on her own. This is where she fails repeatedly. This is when I will have to stick to my guns and refuse to help her. She must do it on her own.
Oh yeah, one more 'little' thing. She's pregnant again. I had gotten wind of this news a few weeks ago and went ballistic then. That is FIVE children now. She cannot even take care of herself! She has not decided what she is going to do yet. Adoption is still an option. She knew I was not happy about this, so that part of the conversation was very short.
Hubby and I discussed all of this and I believe I may go to her 'graduation'. Show a little support, but I'm not convinced she's changed. She always does well in controlled environments. The test will be when she is released into the wild.
And with regards to her getting pregnant over and over. With her addiction, she does not use birth control properly (obviously) and probably never will. When she had Reece, she spoke to the doctor about having her tubes tied, but because she had no children living with her, the state refused to do that. Okay, our government at work again! I'd like get my hands on them, but she is at their mercy with no health insurance. If she places this child for adoption, it will be the same answer with regards to permanent birth control. They won't do it no matter how many children she has had. Their reasoning is that she has no children living with her now. IDIOTS! I could rant about that all day, but won't.
Anyway, she seems to be doing okay, but I'm still upset with her and will keep communication at a bare minimum. She must do all of this on her own. Otherwise, my child will die.
On a lighter note, I have to get going now. My nephew (3 years old and big bro to the triplets) went an ENTIRE day without going in 'time out' or picking on the triplets, so I have to take him bowling. That was the agreement made a month ago. It took him a month to make it a day with no 'time outs', so he deserves a bowling night!
Wednesday, August 23, 2006
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Tuesday, August 22, 2006
As many know, this has been an incredibly bumpy summer for yours truly. I am coming to terms with the death of my grandson Reece. Really. I'm not just saying that. I visit his grave every week if even for a minute to remind him to take care of his mom, Drama Queen. Speaking of which, I spoke to her today and she is doing fairly well. This is the first time I've spoken to her since she relapsed and we kicked her out of the house the first of July. She graduates from recovery program on Tuesday. More on that maybe tomorrow. I am beginning to take my life back after more than ten years of dealing with her and her addiction. My baby girl turned 21 as everyone on earth knows. This is difficult. My baby is an adult. What does that make me? Sure I'm still a mom, but not in the same way. She is spreading her wings even wider right now and this is the most challenging of all. I have no other younger children to focus my attention.
My birthday was in June. When I turned 30, no problem. Sure it was the end of an 'era', but I wasn't devastated. Before I knew it the big 4-0 hit. Still, nothing to be upset about. I never looked my age. I always looked younger and felt younger. My focus was my girls. Turning 40 was no big deal at all to me. It was a celebration!
Let's fast forward to June, 2006. Turning 49. My eldest is turning 26 this year. My baby is turning 21. I am a grandmother to five grandchildren. Yeah, the big news I received. She's pregnant AGAIN! I'll rant about that later! Anyway... Inside I don't feel 49. Inside I don't want to be 49. Inside I don't think 49. Inside I forget I'm 49. Oh... that's a good thing? I hear you out there saying that. Liars! It's not a good thing.
I've read Oprah. I've seen the articles and books about how you are only as old as you feel. I have truly struggled with this all summer. It's all bullshit. You can think that all you want, but you are lying to yourself. At some point you have to look in that mirror! Mirrors do not lie! Forty-nine is staring me in the face. I have aged ten years in the last four years. It's not right. It's not fair. I have thought about this the past three months and now I must go on the offensive. It's time to go into the maintenence phase of my life.
Do any of you truly understand this? If you are under 45 you do not. Right now I wish I had schmoozed more with the plastic surgeon that married a childhood friend of mine. Maybe he would give me a discount. I wish my Godfather, the dentist, was a decent man and would whiten my teeth as a gift.
It's now time to start with more lotions, pedicures, possible facials, doing something about the horrible varicosities that keep recurring in the legs. It's time to begin taking more baths with bath oils to try to save this skin that was burnt to a crisp over and over growing up before sunscreen and being fair skinned and freckled. OYE! I do not like baths. I'm weird like that.
And yesterday, picking up the triplets as I've done a million times in the past year and a half I strain my back. Another reminder. Don't forget how OLD you are becoming. Time to call the family doctor and get that physical you haven't had since... well, let's just say I can't remember the last time I had real physical.
I was thinking about all this and getting more pissed off as I stopped off at the bookstore to pick up something the other day when I came across a new release. Nora Ephron's new book "I Feel Bad About My Neck". An excerpt from this little gem:
"Every so often I read a book about age, and whoever's writing it says it's great to be old. It's great to be wise and sage and mellow; it's great to be at the point where you understand just what matters in life. I can't stand people who say things like this. What can they be thinking? Don't they have necks?"
This from the woman who wrote "When Harry Met Sally", "Sleepless in Seattle", and "You've Got Mail". I love this woman. She is my hero! I now know I am not alone in my thinking.
Monday, August 14, 2006
Saturday was the Dweeb's 'gig'. He is pretty much a one man band at this point. It is difficult belonging to a full band with his schedule. He had a surgeon from work play bass Saturday. Dweeb played acoustic and electric guitar, electronic drum kit, drum machine, keyboards, and flute. The only instrument missing was the cymbals placed between his knees.
The party was hosted by one of the nurses from where he works. It was in a town called Peculiar. It was quite a drive to get there and I went later because I knew how long it would be to set up all of his equipment. As I pulled off the highway at the Peculiar exit, the billboard read "Peculiar... Where the 'odds' are with you". Hmm... do I really want to pull off here or should I make a quick u-turn and head back where I came from? That sounds a bit scary to me. Of course, I put on my brave face and proceeded into the place where the 'odds' would be with me.
The home of the nurse was very nice. Huge lot (acres) with a pond and a pool. The night was absolutely gorgeous for August. Dweeb was in full swing by the time I pulled down the long gravel drive. Dweeb is known throughout his place of business for his musical abilities and everyone loves it, which is a good thing. He would play whether they liked it or not. He played beautifully all night with only a couple of songs that went a bit haywire. Happens. No biggie. The big hit seemed to be when he was supposed to be taking a break. He picked up his stratocaster, supposedly to tune or check it out, but ended up playing Hendrix riffs. This brought the crowd to the forefront begging for more. Who doesn't like that? How can he refuse his fans? He can't. For the next ten minutes he just stood there, not worrying if everything was plugged in correctly or if his sheets of information were correctly placed in front of him. He just played. And it was grand.
Thursday, August 10, 2006
The movie was very good in my view. I don't believe he took any liberties with the subject matter. You can nick pick at little stuff, but take it as a whole and he has a very touching and moving movie. A story many people have not really heard before. And it's subject matter we need to be reminded of from time to time. I would recommend it.
I've mentioned several times over the past months my yearning to get back to NYC. This movie just made my itch worse. I'm not a 'big city' girl. Born and raised in the Midwest and that is where I'm comfortable, but there is something about that particular city that is mesmerizing. With the news this morning regarding more terroist plots thwarted, well, I think I can wait to scratch my itch.
When we go to New York City, it is only for about four days at a time. There is one particular hotel we stay in which is a couple of blocks from Times Square. No renting cars here. Everything is on foot, taxi, or subway. There are certain things we always do on each trip.
- At least one Broadway show. If we can get tickets, we go to two. This is non negotiable.
- We walk to the Village to see what's happening
- Stroll through parts of Central Park and visit Strawberry Fields
- Walk from Times Square, across the Brooklyn Bridge, over to Brooklyn Heights where Dweeb lived as an intern. At the end of his street is the Promenade that looks out over the river to Manhattan and the World Trade Center.
- Little Italy for lunch at least once!
- Find a new little neighborhood to explore (last visit was Soho which isn't little really)
- People watch (keeping my eye out for Naked Cowboy again).
I miss sitting on the Promenade in Brooklyn Heights, strolling through Battery Park or Central Park, the bustle of Times Square, the food in Little Italy, the Broadway shows, the people watching, smelling the smells, chatting with the cops on the corners...
There is no place like New York City.
Wednesday, August 09, 2006
Today I go back with a fresh bouquet of artificial flowers for Reece. I'm through being mad or upset about it. I'm thinking maybe it was someone who couldn't afford flowers for their loved one's grave. They may have seen all the beautiful things I've put at Reece's little place and thought I wouldn't miss the flowers. If that is the case, it's not right and it's downright creepy, but I'm okay with that. Every grave should have flowers or something adorning it. Rememberence. I hope that is what they were used for. I'd hate to think someone just took them home. Nope, not going to go there. I'm sure it was someone who just wanted something for their loved one's little place out there.
See how I stay sane? Not sure it works. I'll keep you posted.
Tuesday, August 08, 2006
It is a tad frustrating for me as this is learning a foreign language for me. I have stumbled and fallen with some pretty big boo-boos. Band-Aids are great... right? It's getting there. I'm trying.
It's Dweeb's day off, but he has a 'gig' on Saturday night so he is busy filling the homestead with all the songs he and 'the surgeon' are going to play. Practice. Practice. Practice. He sounds really good. Be prepared for pictures of the Dweeb in action. The good thing about LOTS of band practice is he doesn't give me "the look" when he sees my head buried in this contraption for hours. It all works out in the end. Right?
I best get back to my own practicing here. If you come here and see some major screw ups, just laugh at me, make a comment insulting me for a good laugh (I'll be laughing right along with you), and I'm sure I'll figure out what I did wrong and fix it. If nothing else, this has given me a good chuckle at what I've created on a few attempts.
Monday, August 07, 2006
Baby sis phoned with that sound in her voice. That plea of help. In the background, I could hear THEM. The screeching, crying, yelling was a migraine in action. I don't want Baby Sis jumping out her second story window, so I jumped in the car and ran over there.
Boy... she was not exaggerating. Combination of heat, age, and irritability has lead this home to the edge. There are not many places you can go with 17 month old triplets and a 3 year old in tow. The destruction is severe and it's just plain exhausting trying to corral them. They are stuck at home a big part of the time with us adults trying to get creative as to where we can take this brood without causing havoc. Today it was indoors at home. The triplets were raging. The 3 year old is just plain sick of them. I don't blame him. They get into his things, they always require attention, and he just plain doesn't like that much.
I was only there for two hours today and I must say I was ready for a long nap when I got home. At one point, Baby Sis has 3 year old in the bathroom (potty training) and I was prying the two girls apart. The Artiste has gained much ground on the Dictator as of late. She can grab, bite, pinch, pull hair, and push as well as the Dictator now. So the girls were at it over the rocking chair. They both wanted to sit in it. They are clawing at each other and pulling each other out of the chair and I'm trying to get them both out of the chair and away from it. They are both very close to 'time out' when I look behind me. Lo and Behold Bubba decided he needed a bit of cleaning up. He is sitting on the end table with lamp knocked over. He had pulled every baby wipe out of the warmer and was washing up as he sat there precariously near the edge. So now what do you do? Keep the girls from scarring each others faces or save Bubba from falling from the table.
The entire two hours went on like this non stop. Poor Baby Sis. Word on the street is Supernanny is in our town this week and she filled out the application to get her to her home. I laughed when she told me this. I think she is doing everything fine. She just needs to remember instead of one kid at 17 months, there are three. So she just needs to accept the fact she will be in hell for a couple of more years.